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Ever Made Relationship Resolutions?


Date Posted: 12/2/2012 3:11:15 AM

Posted By: Dougy Songs  Membership Level: Silver  Total Points: 325

Our romantic relationships can either bring us deep joy or cause us the most intense pain, depending on how we handle them. The status and quality of our relationships will affect our moods, thoughts and behaviour, and ultimately our long-term decisions, which will affect our spiritual growth and health. Making relationship resolutions helps individuals improve their involvement and lead full and satisfying lives.

Different from individual New Year resolutions, relationship resolutions can be drawn together with your partner at any time of the year. So if you did not do it at the start of the year, it is not too late. Take time and draw up relationship resolutions.

Balance is no doubt important if you are to become successful in life, more so when drawing up New year resolutions. Whereas individual New Year resolutions serve as a marking point, a new beginning to the timeline for the upcoming year, and make us stop to think about our lives, who we are, where we are going and how we are doing - joint relationship resolutions are equally important.

Making relationship resolutions with your partner can be an effective way to deepen communication about intimate and important goals you want to achieve together as couple. It could include other goals that each of you wants to achieve as individual, but with other's support. For example, you may plan to get engaged in the new year; or get married; or have children; or move to a new house or town; or just find other jobs, among other issues. Remember that relationship resolutions for couples are not trivial wish list; they must reflect the importance of the relationship and tackle serious issues.

The best way to start making your Relationship Resolutions is for each of you to develop a list of the things you want to accomplish.

Things like discussing finances more openly, completely and honestly; spending more quality time together, doing fun activities; reducing work; ceasing to talk at each other and start to talk with each other. The other issue will be examining your sex life to see if other factors such as old resentments, schedules or anger are getting in the way of healthy, spontaneous expressions of affection.

Relationship resolutions make us stop and think about our lives together. We ask ourselves questions about where we are today, where we want to be at the end of the year and beyond, and in which direction we are headed. It opens up our strengths and vulnerabilities to each other, increases intimacy.

It is a good barometer in many different ways. This is also a real time to communicate, because oftentimes couples stop talking to each other when they feel their needs aren't being met. It is time to make up Relationship Resolutions.

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